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Rum | Brands You Must Try

Huge rum and whisky fanatic, I'm a bit particular with what ones I like, many give me migraines, weirdly and some, just taste so bland. This is one of what will be many posts listing one of the single best thing in life - Rum. 

I'm of the opinion that rum is the best tasting alcoholic beverage out there, and it seems to go well any which way you drink it. Whether you like it with a mixer or straight up on the rocks, it's a great way to chill out and forget life's worries. So grab your glass and fill it with ice or a mixer or both!

Dead Head 6-Year-old Rum

This rum has one of the coolest bottle designs I have seen, it looks like a shrunken head with its eyes sewn up! The taste is caramel-like with notes of allspice and cinnamon. It's very smooth and best drunk with ice and without a mixer. This is available full-size size 70cl bottles for £50 or nice sample bottles of 50ml for £9.99, both of which can be found on Amazon.

Redleg Spiced Rum

I'm not quite sure why it's named red leg, but I'm sure it's to do with the state of your legs after you have had a few too many of these and fallen out of the crow's nest and knackered up your pegs! 

This is a rum perfect for mixing and can be used to create some crafty cocktails. It's sweet but not sickly sweet, and according to the bottle, it is infused with vanilla and ginger which can be tasted when you drink it.  This is an inexpensive rum and a 70cl bottle can be purchased on Amazon for £15.

Kraken Black Spiced Rum

The name is taken from the monstrous, creature that dwells within the depths of the oceans and plagues a great many-a sailors nightmares. The bottle is fashioned with some really cool handles, ensuring that you do not easily drop it when drinking from it! 

This is a sweet, spicy rum that has a pepper aftertaste. It's Dark in colour and gives off a nutty and vanilla aroma. This is especially good mixed with ginger beer and a wedge of lime. Priced at £20 a 70cl bottle, it can be purchased on Amazon. Also, keep an eye out from the limited edition ceramic bottle that is usually released yearly.

Have you tried any of these rums? If so, how do you feel about them? I'd love to hear your thoughts below and if you have any rum recommendations, let me know!


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Blog Changes | Embracing Your Weird

I love reading other blogs, I have a favourites list as long as my arm and I particularly love that I can read about and see insight into others lives. I especially like posts that are real, both happy and sad and stories about those who've overcome shit in their lives. Turning back to my own blog I decided to look at my own posts over the last three or so years and I realised that while I'm proud of my blog, I'm not proud that I've been unable to truly open up. There are very few posts that are personal, real and raw and you know, it makes me sad that I've felt halted in sharing a lot of things with you mostly out of others in our lives, who are ready to twist a simple post into something it's not. 

When it comes to writing posts I clamp up purely because I consider my family members, I consider the hassle I'll get from neighbours who are likely to tear this blog and us, up in an instant (yes, you know who you are if you're reading this) and I eventually climb into myself thinking 'nope, your life just isn't worth sharing Elyse'. I want to share however because I've been through a lot, I've seen a lot and I've overcome a lot. My past experiences have made me who I am today and yes, that person is very introverted but for what I lack in social personality I know I make up for in my ability to care and love. I've been told I'm 'unusual' or 'I'm weird' and for me, those aren't criticisms because I whole-heartedly accept my differences and quirks as being something special. I wish more people viewed their own quirks in the same way.

Everyone around me loves tanning, lashes, beauty, glitter, partying, shopping, etc. I, however,  am so far removed from what's on-trend. I love keeping my feet on the ground, researching and learning so that we can lead a fulfilling and healthy lifestyle, I love being in nature, I love crystals, aromatherapy, and yoga, as a Pagan I love celebrating sabbats, indulging in mindfulness and meditation. We love history, myth, and magic and spending time together -  my sons are our best friends. So it's easy to see why we stand out like a sore thumb. Why we are called weird. And, why we, don't think that being weird is such a bad thing.

See crystals for us not only look pretty they help us heal, they help us remain positive and they help us feel connected to the earth and all it brings. Aromatherapy helps us with many ailments and in particular myself due to having a lack of energy. Aromatherapy also helps us to keep bugs at bay, clean the house without excessive chemicals (and ensure our allergies aren't inflamed) and ensure our home smells gorgeous (grapefruit and lime essential oils in particular). Yoga keeps us de-stressed and fit and healthy, I remember when my sons first started yoga at home and we would laugh so hard as they tried to maintain their balance and beat their embarrassment at positions such as the lion pose and the cow pose. 

Discussing mindfulness and karma has to lead to my sons being caring, compassionate and aware. They can easily see the positives and negatives to a situation and make a decision based on rationality rather than anger or frustration. Discussing the Pagan history and preparing for Pagan sabbats brings us closer to ancestors who followed the same path and those who were lost in the Perth burning times. We embrace each seasonal change and like any family that celebrates a special day it always brings us closer, is filled with happiness and joy and is filled with memories.

Meditation has been one of the best things for our sons. They've self-initiated meditation when they've been unable to fall asleep at night when they've needed a time out to get rid of anger or frustration and when they've been ill. Meditation allows them to get into a calm state of mind so they fall asleep quicker - especially important when they're ill and they know they're going to struggle to fall asleep and when they're going to be tired and sore the next day. All three of them do this and it makes me so proud.

See these things when you break them down aren't all that 'weird'. Unusual yes but weird, absolutely not.

From here on I will wholeheartedly open up on Sweet Elyse blog and Elyse and Connor not because I believe my experiences are better or worse than anyone else but because maybe, my experience of an event will help someone who may be struggling get through something similar. I tell my sons regularly to do what they think is right regardless of what others think but when it came to me looking through my posts I soon realised that I'd probably only actively share some of my posts because many are product-based and not life-based - I felt like a fraud, telling my sons to do something when I wasn't so......

Things are going to change. When I get personal I wholeheartedly want you to be able to ask questions regardless of how personal they are or how awkward you may feel. I want to be able to help others (that damn caring attitude coming out again) because if I help one person then this blog has been more than worth it and it's those four words that mean the most because it's those four words I want to be able to describe my blog as 'more than worth it'.

So, embrace your weird. Don't be afraid to show your weird on your blog, in-person and everywhere you go. Who's with me and what would you describe as being your 'weird'?


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Catching Rainbows

Retrograde is hitting today!! Brace yourself. Now is the time to detox all of those built-up emotions, plans, tasks because if you don't they will continue to hit you again during next retrograde. I'm ready to purge haha. 

So, I've lately been called 'deep'

It was a surprise to me, being called deep. I tended to always just think I was someone who future planned, problem solved, so that I could fix any problems before or just as they happen. Stress is something I dislike, so if I can forward plan any eventual issues I can prepare and have a plan, at least a small plan, in my head ready to trigger to reduce the impact of the event. 

It's fared me well over the years. 

See I'm one of those who attract drama, not through choice as I absolutely despise it, If I could I would live in a serene bubble with rose-tinted specs on.  I'm empathetic to situations, unfortunately, this means that people latch on and with people, comes drama. 

Sometimes when I try to plan for eventualities I get stuck. In my mind. I have no idea how things will play out for the better, it frustrates and upsets me that I can work out a route that ends up happy and one that ends up being the best for all involved. I've been stuck in one of those situations for a while, I try to ignore it and get on with things or sometimes choose the options that result in me self-sacrificing but sometimes something will also remind you or trigger the emotion or thought or basically pull your head right out of your ass so you're forced to deal with it. 

For me, it's my relationship and my future. 

For the last two years, we've been stuck in a ''TTC'' nightmare. One that's resulted in a whole heap of upset, guilt and blame. From 2017 to 2019 we've had seven miscarriages and one ectopic pregnancy. The miscarriages varied in timescales up to 6.5 weeks and the ectopic was shy of 11 weeks. It literally seemed as though we were pregnant every second month, see falling pregnant wasn't an issue so we 'stumped' the recurrent miscarriage clinic, see they normally help those who cannot fall pregnant. We weren't textbook. 

We went through the testing however and sure enough, I ovulate fine, my uterus and tubes were clear, no cysts, polyps - nothing. My immune system does overreact but they didn't feel it would be the cause. The hairy boy had male factor fertility testing done also and his results seemed to be the issue initially. But, because he was getting me pregnant the consultants just kept telling us to 'keep trying' 

The hairy boy had more tests and managed to normalise his results however it was a slippery slope to maintaining normality as any sort of cold, flu or infection or even poor diet could affect it. Long story short between ensuring that all avenues were taken care of to ensure that a healthy sperm met the egg was tough. Likewise ensuring my body was optimum and I was ovulating and had normalised cycles was hard. 

Eventually, we fell pregnant but had an ectopic in February. This was further than any of our other losses, I was on steroids to stop my immune system and progesterone suppositories just to support the pregnancy ''in case'' hormone drops were an issue, the hairy boy was eating right and taking a ton of supplements. After the salpingectomy I was facing TTC with one tube. My right tube was gone which seemed to be my dominant tube and the consultants had no idea what the next step was other than 'keep trying' *yawn* their advice was growing thin. 

Hairy boy was tested again and while normal it had decreased since the last test. I wasn't ovulating and having normal cycles, I was left to worry about time running out for us. I still do. After each loss, I was wracked with guilt as most people initially presumed it must be my fault. It has to be the mother right because she holds the baby but sometimes, it's neither person, or it can be male or female. But I took that on to myself because if people thought it was all me, then what good would it do saying we both had issues? 

If it doesn't happen for us then it doesn't happen. I can say we have children together, they just aren't living. Nothing changes for me. But, it doesn't stop me feeling grief for what we could have had and could have, it seems so far away though and unfortunately I am getting older. 

Having just got over an infection myself I know the impact of the infection on my immune system and that coupled with the weird cycle I've had I know this means that it might take time to get my body back to optimum. I'm trying to lose weight also with intermittent fasting (16:8) in the hope it all improves our chances, but I also sometimes feel so damn lonely with it all. I'm aware that every action we do at the moment can all fuck it up big time. 

Stress, hormones, food, supplements, medications for conditions, lack or too much exercise, lack of sleep - damned everything can impact it. 

I consider my future without having a hairy boy baby and I can accept that for us it might not happen, it fills me with so much sadness that it hurts my heart. I know how much I want this so I can imagine how much he wants this. I can't problem-solve our futures beyond that point. To do so would be selfish. 

Yet, love prevails - but only with free will. 

So any tips for overcoming infertility - that's not following the standard process greatly appreciated before it all drives me insane haha. We have set a deadline so that the whole TTC doesn't drive us insane but, with that, I'm wholly aware that each thing we do can hinder it and waste time in our short TTC timeline. 

Infertility sure kicks your ass! It wears you out. I hope that getting the stagnated thoughts out will help kick start something after retrograde. Maybe you're also going through the same thing? Just know you're not alone, you're not crazy and there's always a new plan that can be made. 


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