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It's been a while since I last wrote an update on where we are outside of blogging and where we are in the bloggy journey. You may have noticed some changes to our blog theme, and also the physical content and direction. This is because of our continual struggle to conceive, well actually not conceive, but our struggle to maintain pregnancy. 

I know we're not the only one to go through these struggles, but I figured that maybe writing more about this topic and, our journey - albeit it's a very hard one to swallow, may, well I hope, will help someone else going through the same. 

And that brings me to the change of direction for Sweet Elyse Blog. Before we focus on beauty and generic lifestyle. Going forward we will still cover lifestyle in all forms, food, drink and shopping wishlists (love a good wishlist) but we will also focus on the whole 'trying to conceive' aspect, maintaining pregnant, miscarriage, and the struggles that come with the whole journey. 

It's not been an easy one for Connor and me. In the last year, we've had five miscarriages. All wanted but they couldn't survive for whatever reason. The first two were super early, as soon as we had our BFP (big fat positive) it faded towards miscarriage. It's easier to accept as denial can be used, you can blame bad tests or treat the MC (miscarriage) as a period. Burying your head is easy to do although it still hurts. 

Two of our miscarriages were hard on us physically and emotionally. 

The first was on Christmas Day 2017. You can find my post on that here - Surviving Miscarriage. The second was a mere week and a half ago. The last one destroyed me emotionally. 

Now as a backlash I find I am super ill, I had a chest infection when I fell pregnant, but when you are pregnant the immune system protects the foetus - making you, the host, unable to feel the poorly symptoms that you'd normally get. When we MC, I then felt like I had flu, I was burning, my chest and kidneys were killing me. To accept that I was 'ill' to others showed just how ill I was. Heading to the doctors I was told I had a chest and kidney infection and put on antibiotics. Tablets will make me feel equally as crap. It's been a long time since I felt healthy. 

The last miscarriage again was hard as we went to the hospital hoping to see our baby on the scan. We were told it's not viable, and our HCG dropped once again. I miscarried two days later. I had struggled with intermittent spotting which I believe was relating to my immune system, the chest infection bacteria or dropping progesterone. No-one wants to listen though within the medical field. They believe it will progress or it won't and miscarriage will ensue. No consideration that it takes a prescription or further testing to save most threatened miscarriages. 

After our miscarriage at Christmas, we were told by the NHS we would be cared for more next time. Granted I was referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic in January.  This appointment was cancelled. I was given five more appointments - all of which were cancelled without any reason by the NHS. So six appointments were cancelled, six appointments that would have put a pregnancy care plan into place. Appointments that would have saved our pregnancy. 

After our recent MC and of course our complaint, the NHS said to me 'in instances of complaints, we as a department look into whether we could have done more to have given a better outcome, or to have saved the pregnancy. In this instance, we absolutely could have

This hurts, I told them more needed to be done, I continually contacted them to tell them I was pregnant, that something had to be done. No-one listened. When I started bleeding, I contacted them and was told 'monitor at home for 48 hours, we are too busy to see you' 

So going forward we await our next appointment (if it's not cancelled), we await the results of the cytogenetics that is being done on our lost baby, we await more testing and a treatment plan. If I got to choose, I'd absolutely opt for Crinone Progesterone and Prednisone. One to boost my progesterone, the other to stop my immune from attacking. 

Clearly, Connor and I are fertile. We struggle with getting to the second trimester. It's so hard for both of us but we've yet to crumble. We remain strong, we remain optimistic even though every loss and shitty experience we've gone through over the last year or two should have broken us, it's only made us stronger in our relationship. 

Sending baby dust to all those going through this hard journey!  


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Top tips for a great CV


If you want to ensure that your job applications are successful and you bag those interviews, it's fundamental that you have a top CV to support it.

Your CV should not be ‘one size fits all’ affair – it should be tailored to the specific role and sector that you're applying to. Spending time on your CV to ensure that it reflects the qualities and skills outlined in the job specification is essential.

It can take a little work to create a great CV, but once you have a successful process in place, updating and tailoring your CV will become second nature. Then, in no time, you’ll find that the interviews start to roll in. Read on for our top tips.

Keep it up to date

It's important to make sure that you keep your CV up to date. After all, you need to sell the most relevant and best version of yourself on your application. If you learn new skills, complete any qualifications or start any new hobbies, make sure to add these to your CV.

If you've been job searching on and off for a little while, you may find that you have a few variations of your CV floating around on different jobs board and recruitment sites. Make sure that you keep track of who has your CV and that it is the most up to date version.

You don't want to realise that you missed out on some great job opportunities, simply because recruiters were looking at an outdated CV.

It may sound simple, but make sure that your CV also clearly states your most up to date contact details. This includes your email, phone number, and full name. If these aren’t correct it can make arranging interviews more difficult and you may miss out on a job as a result.

Tailor it where possible

When submitting and writing job applications, it’s important to make sure that you have tailored your CV to the job role. Read the job description thoroughly and pick out the key skills that are required. Then, ensure that the skills on your CV match and reflect these.

Recruiters may read hundreds of different CVs for each role they’re hiring for, so if yours doesn't tick most, if not all, the boxes in the job description, you may fall into the ‘no’ pile.

Keep it concise

It can be easy to get carried away with your job application and CV. If you find that you're waffling or repeating facts across both your CV and cover letter, it’s time for a rejig.

Remember, a recruiter will spend around 30 seconds scanning through your CV, so making sure that it's structured well and nicely presented is important. 


Ideally, your CV should be no longer than two pages of A4. It should be simple to read, with no large chunks of text. If you want to go into a little more detail about specific roles and responsibilities, use bullet points to break it up and highlight any key skills.

In addition, only include work experience that is relevant to the role you’re applying to. That week-long work experience that you did when you were 13 may no longer be needed so it could be time to take it off your CV. Don't be afraid to do so. 

Remember the basics

It can be pretty easy to get swept up in a job application. Sometimes, even the basic components of a great CV are overlooked. It's important that you get these basics right, as your CV won't stand out amongst other candidates if you fall at the first simple hurdle.

Make sure that your CV looks clean, tidy and all the fonts and sizes are as they are meant to be. Getting just the basic formatting of your CV wrong is a massive turn off for recruiters.

Check that the layout is easy to work through, with your contact/personal details, personal statement, work experience, education history, achievements, skills, hobbies, and interests listed in a logical and chronological order. 

Sometimes it can help to have a fresh eye look over your CV, just in case you’ve made some common spelling and grammar mistakes which can be easily corrected. 

Ready to write a great CV?

If you tick off this checklist for writing a great CV, then you should be well equipped for your job search and you may well find that the interviews start to come in.

Scotland-Jobs is currently advertising a range of jobs in Scotland and is one of Scotland’s leading job boards.


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