Life can be an up and down ride, don’t you agree? There can be times when everything seems to be going right. The routines of daily life just merge in sync. The washing get’s done, the house is tidy. You feel like you are winning at life. The there is the downhill struggles we can often face. Some people have more than other’s I agree. But we all face those tough times at some point in our lives. It can be anything. There might be a specific reason but for every bout of depression, anxiety or low mood there's not always one.
It doesn’t matter how strong we think we are, every one of us can be hit with something hard to handle at some point. So I thought it would be a good idea to discuss with you what you should do if things aren’t going your way, and how you can overcome them. You are always stronger than you think.
Talk to your employer
If you head out to work each day, then your employer and colleagues are the people that see you most. We may not like them, or perhaps you get on great with them. But it's a fact you spend a good chunk of time in your office or workplace. So it would be an obvious next step to talk to your employee about what’s going on in your life. This could be affecting your work without you even realising. Or before it does it’s advisable to give them the heads up about what's going on in your life. They may be able to offer time off for appointments, or funerals. They may be able to help create a better working environment. Some employers have Health Assured's employee assistance solutions. Which could offer a range of services including counselling. You won’t know the additional support available unless you ask for help. So don’t be afraid to do that.
Consider your mindset
The way we think can be the first thing to affect us mentally. Our mindsets can have a massive effect on how we handle things. Depending on your situation, if it happens to be a particularly negative and distressing thing to go through, you are likely to feel down Even upset and emotional. All of which are very normal feelings to have. But the difference is not to let them overcome you. This is where more harm than good can be done. Look at how you are thinking and working things out in your mind. No matter how hard it may feel try and overcome them and accept the feeling for what they are. An emotional response at that moment in time.
Seek help from family and friends
Your family and friends are the constant that can keep you going. So make sure you let them help you as much as they can. They can be someone to offload to, and they will listen. They may help with childcare to give you a little breathing space. Sure they may even bring food round and offer to cook or clean in the home. Accept the help. Sometimes we just need a moment to shut off and recuperate our thoughts. Family and friends are the best people to surround yourself with during difficult times.
Take a hard look at your lifestyle
Depending on the situation you may find your lifestyle has a lot to do with it. If you health has been affected then how have you been living your life? Have you been burning the candle at both ends? Not getting enough sleep or taking care of your diet. Perhaps you have been drinking more alcohol than you should be to help you get through. Our lifestyles can have a big impact on how we live our lives. So look at what you are doing and how you are living. If things need to change, then try and implement them to feel better.
Try and develop a positive attitude
Finally, developing a positive attitude will always help you get through a difficult situation. It may seem bleak at the moment, but turning a negative thought into a positive one will help you move forward. It’s about being grateful what is good in your life, no matter how tough things get. There will always be something that you can feel pride and gratitude towards. It may be your children or your family. It might mean your partner or friends. Focus on those good things and see the difference your attitude can make.
I hope this helps you through any tough times that you may have.