4 Ways To Become a Positive Person

Whether it’s about your appearance, your partner or your lifestyle, negative thoughts are never a good thing to have. A minor negative thought can grow and become something you obsess about every day. This can drain you of all your energy, make you lose all focus and make you feel inferior to others. So instead of giving into your frequent thoughts and to keep some of your sanity, it’s time to become a more positive person. Take a look at these four ways you can encourage more positivity into your life and become a better version of yourself.

Smile more

Instead of walking around with a frown, make an effort to smile more. Stand up in front of a mirror and smile at yourself. You may feel a little bit silly at first, but it will have a positive impact by improving your appearance and relieving stress. Doing this often will feel more natural over time, and you’ll feel lighter as a result. This is especially important if you have children. You don’t want them to pick up on your negative vibe, and they may even start to copy your expressions.

Do something good for someone else

Doing things for others will always improve your mood and make you feel like a good person. So think of how you could improve someone else’s day rather that just concentrating on your own. You could visit an elderly neighbour and help them do their weekly shop. Or you could do some voluntary charity work for people who are less fortunate than yourself. These small acts of kindness will make you feel incredible and highlight just how fortunate you are.

List the things you are grateful for

Many of us don’t realise how lucky we are and how much we have to be thankful for. So write a list of all the things you are grateful for to gain some much-needed perspective. This list will help you appreciate what you already have and stop you dwelling on irrelevant things. Keep this list somewhere you can see it every day and add to it often.

Get help with your negativity

If you find it difficult to see the positive qualities in your life, there may be an underlying issue you need to resolve. Seeking help with your negativity from your family, friends and counsellors is a fantastic way to become more positive. These people will put things into perspective and help you get out of that negative downward spiral. You can also discover what your rising sign is, which can offer some guidance and insight into why you feel this way all the time. Listen to your support network and take on board the feedback they are giving you. Don’t seek help from anybody who will feed your negativity further.

Positivity is not something that will happen overnight and you will need to work at it. But the more you practice these techniques, the easier it will be. The negative thoughts that were once holding you back will disappear, and you can enjoy your life to the fullest.

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5 Unforgettable Ways to Spend Your Gap Year

The gap year is becoming more and more commonplace among young people. In years gone by, a lot of students would hunt for a job as soon as they graduated. Now, though, this generation are valuing life experience over jumping head first into a career they may not be prepared for. There are two primary reasons that one may choose to take a gap year. Either, first, to boost your career prospects. Or secondly, to get out there and create memories to last you a lifetime. After all, this could be your last real opportunity to do so before responsibility takes a hold of your life. 

Here are five of the most valuable ways to spend those carefree twelve months.

Get Experience

Quite often, the one thing that stops fresh-faced students from landing the job of their dreams straight out of school is a lack of experience. This inexperience can make you feel virtually worthless to the job market. A lot of students settle for lesser work just in order to pay the bills. But, instead, why not focus your year on trying to get a foot in the door of your chosen profession? Check out internships in your field. You may be paid less, but it can lend a massive helping of credibility to the pursuit of your career.

Learn a Language

Learning a foreign language is one of the most effective ways to boost your employment prospects. If you speak more than one language fluently, you open yourself up to a whole host of new career paths. This will add credence to your cv and it's a massive plus in the eyes of potential employers.

Pay Off Debts

When you're fresh out of college or university, chances are you've been saddled with your fair share of debt. It goes without saying, this will follow you around for the crucial period of the next few years. Why not get a head start on becoming debt free and dedicate the next year to paying off as much as you can? Sure, it may not be glamorous, but it's a sensible option.


If you're not quite ready to settle down into the routine you plan to follow for the rest of your life, traveling is a perfectly viable option. Many students use their gap year to see the world and experience new cultures. The Leap has a few ideas of ideal destinations to visit in order to learn and grow. Even better if you can combine this with your working life. Getting a job overseas while creating lasting memories is the preferred option for many students.


If you're looking for a particularly rewarding way to spend your time, look no further. Sure, it won't pay the bills, but you can't put a price on the invaluable experiences you'll enjoy. The feeling you get from helping other people can put a lot of things into perspective as you prepare to settle into your new life. And on top of that? It can be a massive boost to your cv.

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How To Making Quitting Smoking Easier To Cope With

You might remember that a few months back, I shared my story about quitting smoking with you. Well since then, I’ve have so many people ask me how I coped, as they’ve tried and failed to quit, time and time again. This got me thinking about how you can make quitting easier for yourself, it’s never going to be easy to quit, but you can make it more manageable. To making quitting smoking easier to cope with, here’s what you need to do: 

Know your motivation 

You need to have a reason to want to quit, else, I’m sorry to say it, but you won’t succeed. For me, when I quit a few years ago, my motivation was my family, and it worked. I’ve been cigarette free for over six years, and it feels great. 

Whether you’re quitting for your family, for your health, or for the financial benefits, you need to know your motivation. Having something to focus on is important, as when you’re struggling, it’s your motivation that will get you through. 

Don’t go cold turkey 

The mistake that many smokers make when they’re trying to quit is opting to go cold turkey. Quitting will be ten times harder if you cut nicotine out altogether, and you’ll be more likely to fail. Your best option is to use some form of nicotine replacement product, be it nicotine gum or an e-cigarette, it doesn’t matter. It’s a case of thinking about what will work best for you, if you only crave nicotine, patches or gum could work well. 

However, if you miss having something in your hand or mouth, an e-cigarette could be the best option. The great thing about e-cigarettes is that all you’re inhaling is flavoured steam and a little nicotine, so it’s a lot less damaging to your body. For a range of perfect starter e-cigarettes and best e liquid flavours, have a look online. 

Tell friends and family 

A big mistake that many of us make when we’re trying to quit is not telling friends and family. By keeping the fact we’re trying to cut out cigarettes a secret, we leave ourselves vulnerable. If a friend who also smokes doesn’t know you’ve quit, they may offer you a cigarette causing you to relapse. 

That’s why it’s best to be honest with your friends and family when you quit so that they can help you. When you’re trying to stay on track but are craving a cigarette, the last thing you want is someone to offer you one as you just might cave in. That’s why it’s so important that you tell all your nearest and dearest that you’re trying to quit so that they don’t tempt you. 

Keep yourself busy 

If you want to ensure that you stay on track, you need to keep yourself busy. You’ll find that if you’re bored, you're twice as likely to want to smoke, and may end up caving in. That’s why it’s important to keep yourself as busy as possible. 

Clean the house from top to bottom. Bake a cake with the kids. Take your children to the park to play football. Meet the girls for coffee and a chat. Watch a movie with your husband. Keep your mind busy and you’ll be less likely to give in and smoke. 

Quitting smoking is never going to be easy, but with these tips you can make it more doable.

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Family Movie Night In || The Descendants

Movie nights have long been apart of my life, growing up I loved having a sleepover with my friends with loads of munchies and juice and dvd's and magazines. Most of the time we'd end up laughing and gorging on junk and barely watch the movies but you know it really didn't matter because it was a memory that I'd never forget. It released any stress that I had at the time and brought up closed together. 

Now that I'm an adult I still believe wholeheartedly in movie nights. In my last job I worked for a care home who also embraced the movie night culture because it brought the residents together, gave them an hour or two of freedom from being a resident, service user or patient. Seeing the smiles on their face brought me so much joy although they didn't enjoy it if you had to interrupt them to get something *oops*, especially during lads night. The men were the worst if they were interrupted. I presumed this was something that only the care home I worked in did but I recently found out that Gracewell, who are a care home provider also encourage movie nights for the exact same reason. I'm hoping that all care homes, long stay hospitals and family homes do the same.

Our last movie night was the first in our new home. Settling down after Christmas and New Year I let the boys pick a movie that they had on their wishlist. They chose Disney's The Descendants. Secretly I was chuffed because I wanted to see it too. I do love a good kids Disney movie (is that quite sad, it is isn't it?).

We got plenty of munchies - Cooper chose Salt and Vinegar Pringles and Dairy Milk. Rome choose popcorn and buttons and Cole choose popcorn and sweeties. We all drank water cause the boys are a bit more health conscious than I was when I was their age. I munched on Joe & Seph's Toffee Apple and Cinnamon popcorn and sweeties, the popcorn was incredible! like seriously so incredible I wasn't sharing one bit.  PJ's were on, the boys were comfy, mummy and daddy were comfy and the lights were off, the movie was about to begin...

So what is the movie about? 

The Descendants is a new take on the classic Disney stories of Snow White, Cruella de Vil, Aladdin, Sleeping Beauty etc. Basically, this movie tells the tale of the Disney baddies who were all exiled to an island in the middle of nowhere called the Isle of the Lost (like Alcatraz) by the good fairy. The Evil Witch, Cruella de Vil, Jafar and Maleficent all now have children who stay on this island in the middle of nowhere and like their parents they're rebellious, they're naughty and they just don't care. All they want to do is cause havoc and make their parents proud of their naughtyness.

Long story short they children of the baddies are given the chance to come and live in Auradon (where the good guys stay) because the new prince (whose parents are the beast and belle) believes that the children of the baddies should be given the chance to live a good life, especially because it's their parents who are bad and not them. Initially, they don't want to leave the island to go to Auradon but Mal (daughter of Maleficent) is told to go and to steal the good fairy's wand.

Once they arrive they're surrounded by goodness, normal living, and adults who show them love and respect. It makes the children second guess themselves. Are they really born bad or are they born to be whoever they want to be? I'll not add any spoilers but this movie's filled with great little Disney actors, my sons all recognised the stars from their favourite TV shows. It's also filled with crazy fashions, strong personalities, and plenty of catchy tunes.

I won't say what happens as it will spoil it but the movie is really incredible. It's bright, full of zany fashion, has a really good moral or two and has the typical Disney singing. It's not too girly, boyish or romantic like many of the Disney movies either which is a big plus. All three of my sons loved it and, Cole tends to not love many movies as he's always viewing the realities of it. Unless it would happen in real life he's not impressed but with this movie he was hooked.

Apparently our next movie nights going to feature Teen Beach Movie 2. Honestly, I'm kinda excited about it. 

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