Beginning Again... Regaining Control In Your Life


Control, it is one of those words that has very many connotations, but when it comes to our lives, we need to have a sense of feeling like we are in charge of our destiny. Have you ever had that dream where you don't have control of the car you are driving? Lots of people tend to have this dream, and the way it is interpreted is that it's time to start reassessing what it is about your life that you cannot control. So, what aspects can we learn to gain control of, or, in some cases, regain control?

Letting Go...
The one thing that we have issues with in this life is letting go of certain situations, ironically enough, these are things that we have no control over. Because we tend to have anxieties and concerns about problems that we do face on a near constant basis, they are forever embedded in our consciousness. By letting go and accepting that there are certain things in your life that you cannot change, because they are things that are out of your reach, for example, your family, it's liberating to hit upon the notion that you need to start thinking about changing yourself. You cannot change people, and this is what we tend to try and do in our lives when in actual fact we need to change ourselves.

Assessing Your Priorities...
When we are ridden with anxiety, it gives us a skewed view of the real purposes in life. One way to get back to a decent base line in this respect is to have a thorough examination of what it is that is important in your life. We have various stresses in our life, from debt, to relationships, and stop us enjoying our day to day lives. And as these issues can take up most of our thoughts and envelop us, we need to take stock and look at what is important to us, and how we can regain that sense of purpose.

Look At Your Relationships...
Not just in a romantic sense, but everyone you are in contact with; you may find that you have spent a lot of time giving yourself to people who aren't grateful for your efforts, which becomes a very one-sided relationship. Sometimes, there are friendships that only last a certain amount of time, and as the cliché goes, you can count your true friends on the one hand. So if you are finding that you have been taken off course with issues you may consider to be trivial, because of supposed friends, it can feel like you have just gone with the flow, and have lost your sense of self in the process.

Help Is Around The Corner...
Regardless of your situation, sometimes we can feel like we are helpless, and we don't have anywhere to turn. In the age of sharing your problems, from debt as mentioned above, all the way through to mental health issues, such as depression, remember there is a wealth of tools at your disposal. Depending on your own unique situation, there are resources like debtconsolidationusa.com if you are suffering from financial difficulties, which in turn can trigger depression and anxiety. Sometimes we don't feel like we are in control because we aren't in control of the symptoms we are feeling. It's important to remember that in these situations, a problem shared is a problem halved. So if you want to reach out, there is someone there to listen, and it doesn't have to be a professional, there are charities, like the Samaritans, that you can call and discuss your problems with. If there is help available to you, use it!

Look At The Anxiety From Another Perspective...
It usually happens when we are faced with a major life-changing event, such as losing a loved one that makes you reassess the real things in life. And as the saying goes, don't sweat the small stuff. And so, if you are in a position where you don't feel that you are getting a sense of control in your life, you need to think if what you have been feeling has been a distraction from the things that are important to you. We can tend to go on autopilot through life. And as so many people talk about going on vacation, for example, after a loved one has passed away, because they have never been on vacation, or people decide to go skydiving, or traveling, it's these things that will reinvigorate you and help you regain control of your existence.

Regaining Control...
There are various efforts you can make to start regaining control of your life again, but how do you do it? The first thing to do in this respect is to take it slow. Once you have already assessed the red flags in your life, you can slowly start to make these small changes that eventually add up to a major change. It's like when you do the ironing, you do a little bit, and you go a little bit further, and then you go over that whole bit that you had just done. Eventually, you've done the whole item of clothing. Other ways can include taking some pride in what you have achieved, which can be difficult especially if you are in an anxious or you won't because your perspective can be skewed. If you have difficulty in taking pride in your current achievements, make new ones! When people are feeling bereft, they help those that are less fortunate. Doing this will naturally give you a feeling of accomplishment.

Looking After Yourself...
When we don't have control of our own lives, it's usually because we neglect our own needs. And the best, most simple way, to do this is to do a little bit of indulging. Do something nice, eat nice food, or go to the movies, whatever it is you love doing. We can give so much of ourselves away to other people, that we have no sense of self anymore. So, by looking at what it is you need to help you recharge in an emotional sense, this is a very handy stepping stone. If you do find you operate on a sense of high anxiety, there are resources you can find online, prevention.com, for example, shows a few simple ways to recharge yourself by doing some simple exercises.

Having a sense of control in your life again will make all the difference, and if there has been long time in your life where you have felt like you have been in control of who you are, what your services, all if you've been struggling after a difficult time, it's worth looking at a few of these points, and seeing where to begin again.



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